Why is our happiness dependent on others
Long time no post! Yeah, life has been like that. Actually life has been pretty good. Things are moving smoothly on the home front. Work is hectic but very enjoyable. But still within there is a sense of missing something. A missing link which will provide me the happiness I crave. But hard to put my finger on what that is. Why is it that I look for happiness outside ? Why is there turmoil in the mind when people don't act as I think they should? My wife, my daughter, my sister, sister-in-law, brother, etc etc Does caring for them mean I try to control their lives? I know these are hypothetical questions and am trying to control my mind but there are times when mind breaks free on its own.
Man re tu kaahe na dheer dhare.
Man re tu kaahe na dheer dhare.
posted by Vinayak at 1:52 PM
5 Comments:
Your happiness does not depend upon others.....as long as you do not let them affect your way of thinking and mindset. Look within yourself and you will realise that it is best to let go and not hold on to things that matter the most to you.....possessiveness and obsession are the sole cause for unhappiness and dejection.
Ambition is healthy, aspirations are welcome but obsession defeats the purpose of existence. Dream on because life is made up of dreams and be hungry to fulfill them.
Happiness is what you derive from holding your daughter's hand on the beach, watching the sunset, because you know you can look forward to another day with her and her mischief. We say it very often in the kitchen (I work here!!)....'Same shit different day'. But that is just out of realisation that this is an ongoing contingency....but if we spend our life thinking about all that we miss, we will never be happy and content. It is good to yearn for the better things in life and that is underlined in Maslow's theory of hierarchy but he does not delve on the psychological side of the whole issue!!
Enjoy life Bhidu....Shit happens but who cares!! Coz we are better off than worrying about what has been excreted...;-)!!
Cheers
Have you tried to figure when would you be happy? Just ponder about it :)
Fact is, we keep postponing our happiness; rather unnecessarily attaching to yet elusive milestones in our life :)Whereas the ONLY time that we can be happy is NOW!
Ham log saari zindagi dukh ke kankad (pebbles) been been kar apne daaman mein bharte rehte hain; woh dukh jo kabhi hamne bhugte, ya woh dukh jo ham sochte hain ki hamein kabhi mil sakte hain - jabki sukh ke meethe phal ped (tree) par hi lagey lagey sookh jaate hain aur ham unka kabhi maza nahin le sakte . Terrible isn't it ? :)
Another point to muse - Dukh aur Sukh are two sides of same coin, one invariably (nay always)follows another. This 'srishti' is designed to work in this manner. It is only that we (have to) go through pain/ grief/ unhappiness that we are able to understand what the happiness is all about...
Cheer up :)
(You don't know me; I am a dormant member of I2wofs group and your link on a post brought me here. My apologies if you found my unsolicited comment unnecessary; believe me, that was not my intention)
Naresh Khattar
Thanks for your comments. I do keep thinking of such issues from time to time but then I am basically an optimist and happy person. So no issues. :)
Well,
Your optimism speaks quantums for you and i think you wish to say how happy you are to be surrounded by people. ever thought its not just about the people who are with us for long but it is about all those whom we brush across all day thru.
The train where a single fight puts us off, on the contrary a smile from the neighbour can be so contagious that it reflects in almost every place.
The office where almost everything is so competitive but that one tap from our colleagues can make all the difference for all the while.
If i were you i would have very much said what you have but to put it differently i would have added that these ppl fill in the big void that i would not have afforded to live with.
regards
Purva
That is very true.
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